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Rejection could be one of the biggest problems facing mankind. I believe it does more damage to the soulish realm of people than anything else.
I believe it can take the form of normal hurts and it can also open the way for a host of unclean spirits. Either way we must overcome the hurt that comes from rejection in our lives.
Hurt people hurt people, healed people heal people.
Rejection occurs when someone in authority in your life neglects, or abuses you.
The higher up in authority the person is to you and the younger you are amplifies the level of rejection.
Denial will allow the rejection to keep it’s hold in your life.
The main companion problem with rejection is rebellion
- Rebellion against authority is a very understandable reaction to rejection
- This rebellion can be pervasive and encompass all forms of authority. It can also be specific to certain things that the victim of rejection associates with the rejecter.
If we don’t receive healing, the rejection pattern can be transmitted to everyone around us.
The most susceptible people to our rejection issues are those under our authority. Parents to children, husbands to wives, bosses to employees.
Rejection, in order to keep it’s place in our hearts and minds, uses denial and rebellion to keep it’s hold on people.
There are other companion issues that can come alongside in a supporting role also.
- Religion or religious spirits – never being good enough, never measuring up; this also plays well with rejection. Religious leaders who have rejection issues will cast this off on the people under their authority also.
- Witchcraft or divination
1 Samuel 15:23
For rebellion is like the sin of divination, and arrogance like the evil of idolatry. Because you have rejected the word of the LORD, he has rejected you as king.”
The Greek word “pharmakia” has as one of it’s root meanings the word "drugs", and appears five times in the New Testament: in Gal 5:20, Rev 9:21, 18:23, 21:8, and 22:15.
“Pharmakia” is translated into our English Bible as either “witchcraft”, “sorceries” or “magic arts”. We also get our English word “pharmacy” from the Greek word “pharmakia”.
“pharmakia”, or recreational “drugs” is listed as a work of the flesh of man as opposed to the Spirit of God working in us.
Even the world understands
20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions
21 Nor did they repent of their murders, their magic arts, their sexual immorality or their thefts.
23 The light of a lamp will never shine in you again. The voice of bridegroom and bride will never be heard in you again. Your merchants were the world’s important people. By your magic spell all the nations were led astray.
8 But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.”
15 Outside are the dogs, those who practice magic arts, the sexually immoral, the murderers, the idolaters and everyone who loves and practices falsehood.
So here is how the process could dominate a person’s life.
- There is perceived rejection by one or both of the parents.
- The rejection can take the form of abuse
3) physical; or the rejection can take the form of neglect.
- They never really get over the feeling of not being wanted or loved.
- When they get into their teen years they become incredibly rebellious to teachers, parents, anyone in authority.
- They may even dress in strange clothes trying to cause people to reject them while deep in their hearts they are wanting to be accepted.
- They start to experiment with drugs and may even become addicted.
- They end up in prison where they are surrounded by other inmates who perpetuate the rejection problem.
Do you know anyone like this? Or, maybe not exactly like this but pretty close. Hopefully they got off the track before they went to prison.
Today I believe there may be people in a prison of rejection and it’s had some level of control over you for years.
The meditation of your heart is, “I can’t do that” or “I’m not good enough”.
You disqualify yourself from doing things on a pretty regular basis.
You say you hate rejection but you find yourself constantly doing things to get rejected. Outwardly you hate it, but inwardly you don’t know anything else so you feel very comfortable with rejection you actually seek it out on a deep, subconscious level.
Rejection is a very wicked thing especially if it’s not dealt with.
My Teen Challenge student who had a rejection problem learned of a scripture that says you can commit the unforgivable sin.
but whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit will never be forgiven; they are guilty of an eternal sin.
The solution to the rejection problem is obvious enough, acceptance.
However the person doing the accepting has to have a higher level of honor from your heart than the one that rejected you and the one accepting you has to have a higher level of authority than the one that rejected you. I believe this is the only way to undo what has been done to you.
Are you beginning to see how rebellion sabotages a person’s ability to get healed from rejection? The very ones who can come in and bring healing are rebelled against.
Have you ever asked someone their opinion about something and they gave you a very favorable answer like, “Oh those shoes look great on you” and you thought “She’s just saying that”?
You don’t have enough honor for that person you asked the question to and they don’t have much authority in your life. Therefore their acceptance of your shoes (in this example) doesn’t convince you that the shoes are good.
However, say you asked your favorite celebrity designer about your shoes with much fear in your heart and they said, “Wow, those shoes look great on you!” Now do you believe it?
Yes, now you believe it because you honor this person and they are at a high level of authority.
What God says about you
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
OK, now this is what God says about you. Do you believe it? I know you can believe it with your head but does it penetrate to your identity. Will you let it shape your opinion of yourself, your very personality? If you haven’t already or you can’t, you are dealing with either scriptural ignorance or a stronghold.
Apposed to the Knowledge of God
2 Corinthians 10:4,5
4 The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. 5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
Think God’s Ways
2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
God’s Love is the Perfector
1 John 4:18
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
Kindness Leads to Repentance
Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, forbearance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance?
What or who has the highest level of authority in the world? The president of the United States? The Queen of England? The head of the United Nations?
seated him (Jesus) at his right hand in the heavenly realms, 21 far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every name that is invoked, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. 22 And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, 23 which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.
Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name,
6 You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. 7 Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. 8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
The humbling death on the cross! This, when understood by revelation knowledge will defeat any and all rejection issues in the life of the believer!
And having disarmed the powers and authorities, he made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross.
If you can honestly honor and worship the Lord Jesus, realizing his love, and position of authority, you can begin to break free from the sin of rejection, being a victim, and begin to walk in God’s will.
Abundant life and the promises of God can be yours.
2 Timothy 2:13
13 if we are faithless, he remains faithful, for he cannot disown himself.
God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” (Deuteronomy 31:6)
Let the love of God, the acceptance of God, the authority of God begin to chip away at the feelings of rejection you have. Allow Jesus to love you and undo rejection.
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